Hi there! I am new to all of this but, I felt like I needed an outsiders view and some ideas on a problem that will not seem to go away.

Basically I met a man a year ago in June. We were together briefly in what was a very passionate and deeply intense relationship. It ended because one day he said he was in love with me but was afraid he would really hurt me and to me, that sounded a little off and I immediately became suspicious so I had a friend run his license plate number (I have never done that before) and found out the car was registered to him and his wife.

Needless to say I confronted him in our gym parking lot and ended it right then and there. I blocked him from texting and emailing and I changed gyms, I even moved because I didn't want him showing up on a whim.

A few months go by and my phone rang. It was him, he called from a different number and we spoke for a few minutes. I assured him nothing had changed and that I was not interested in seeing a married man. I blocked that number as well.

The has called from several different numbers and each time I have answered not knowing it was for him. I do a lot of business in my area so many people call my cell from numbers I do not recognize.

I have told him to stop and he doesn't get it. I have been harsh with him, mean to him, nice to him, I have told him to think of his wife and kids but nothing gets through to him.

I am in a good place with a good person and want to keep it that way but today he called again. I am at the point that I want to call his wife. I don't want to hurt her or the kids but he doesn't seem to care. He wants to meet with me just to talk like we used to so often. He just wants to see me for a few minutes.. blah blah blah.. I am at my wits end. I can't change my number due to work so, what now? I would never want to be in his wife's position. He told me I wasn't the first girlfriend he had on the side. Do I email his wife, call her and send her all the text messages or what?