I totally feel for you, seesaw. My dad...yeah, well, he's been gone 20 years now and at some point I let it go. I wish I knew how! Geez it would come in helpful right now with some stuff. However, I'm guessing I would be still stewing at him if he was still alive. I still have plenty of the same feeling towards other family members as well. It's very hard to let it go...the bitterness, the anger, the expectancy of them being more accepting of me (I feel like the black sheep).

I have at times found it helpful to write out a letter to someone who is the object of my current wrath. It helps to write it like I'd actually send it. But I never, ever have. It helps sometimes. It just an idea.