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Originally Posted by Leah123
You can't do one rep of a new exercise and expect to win a bodybuilding contest- if you want to strengthen yourself, you must do many many repetitions.
So pick one positive thing, maybe with your therapists help, and post it with post its on the wall or in your pocket or wallet, etc. or all of the above, and say it to yourself 100x a day for a while.
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I have to agree with this. Thanks Leah!
I found it/still find it hard to believe that simple positive thinking (or in my case, just letting go of the iterative negative thinking) could have a deep impact. It does, after you practice it for some time.
A technique that helped me learn about letting thoughts go: when you're driving, see how you see the road. You see a sign come up, and you read it, and it passes, and you drop it from your mind and go on. You can do that with negative thoughts too -- and it was paying attention to my mindset while I was driving that helped me get used to the practice.
After many years of writing about it, I determined my "inner critic" had practically its own penthouse inside my mind, all set up for every kind of comfort and defense needed for kicking it out. For me the first step to dethroning that creature was accepting that it was me, not separate from me. And if it was me, if those thoughts really came from me, then *I* could change it. I hope that's helpful to you, but if not, I hope you find something else that works.