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Old Jul 21, 2015, 02:58 PM
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Angel428 Angel428 is offline
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Originally Posted by d.o.a. View Post
Hey Angel,

You say you usually only show happiness, that you weren't a particularly emotional person before, and are wondering how to make your emotions 'stop'. I'm no professional, but I'm guessing you've got a lot of pent-up emotional energy inside you?

How come you only show happiness to others? Why would your tears need to be hidden? I'm thinking the answers to these questions might be a good starting point to unravelling your current situation..

I once read that anger and sadness are two sides of the same coin - behind anger, there's hurt. And we probably need other people to 'hold our hand', to support us, in order to get to the hurt.. The problem is, a lot of people are afraid of anger AND sadness, so they're likely to reject us when we feel and express those feelings, teaching us to be afraid of those emotions as well..

But emotions are part of being human. They 'make' us who we are. And in an understanding, supporting and loving environment, we can learn that our emotions are acceptable and nothing to be scared of. There's also a lot of information available for learning to deal with our emotions in a healthy manner.

All the best to you
Thank you for that. That makes sense, I just need to figure out how to get there... And I don't know why I hide my emotions. I've been doing it since the age of 5. I've always believed that emotions just get in the way and restrict you from helping people. When I get upset, I have like 7 other people who go down with me. I have always been strong and that is what people need and expect.
I'll look further into this.