Lavender-
Your response was great, and wanted to say thank you. Especially coming from a BPD. I know she painted me black after my suicidal situation, blocked me from FB, and is with my replacement. Do you think she would just look down on me for trying to leave the door open? I dont want a response from her..but dont want to push her further into hiding either. Thank you in advance

Well if I were your ex, I would actually feel insulted.


Simply because you chose to use the word "obligated"


I absolutely love it that I have someone, whether friends or my bf, who's there for me when I'm at my worst, but if I even smelled a hint of obligation from these people I would tell 'em where they could shove it.


So, this is what I think.


If you genuinely care about her and want to be there for her, regardless of where that leads, that's good, that's nice, that's very decent of you. Do it.


If you only want to do it because you feel obligated (for whatever reason) to save her from herself, or whatever, don't.

I completely agree on the obligation part. Poor choice of words on the title. It is coming from a genuine place of compassion though, like I said in the post itself. I always gave her my all and wanted her best before we grew into more than platonic. Pure intentions this time, with no expectation of hearing back. In fact, Im sure this would cause me to be painted black further. Im so back and forth on when and if I should send!!!