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Originally Posted by -jimi-
You seem to somehow enjoy the drama. Maybe it makes you feel like the strong, sane person in the relationship? But truth is you are posting tons of threads about the same thing, which to me seems a bit odd. Do you ever share your issues and not just hers? Everyone has some kind of problems. Maybe you need to take a step back and ask yourself why you need a whole subforum focused on this friend. You say you can teach your friend social skills, but I doubt she wants to be trained like a dog. Maybe you are simply too focused on her and she can sense that. Maybe you need to realize friendships are supposed to be fairly equal, one part is not supposed to lead the other.
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I honestly don't enjoy it i just try and make a positive out of every situation and i like to think compared to her yeah i honestly am relatively sane, although in the past year i have had anxiety which i worked on. I have had a counsellor for the past year so i've sorted all my issues, i'm just trying to understand hers and help her as she is not doing it herself.
I understand where you're coming from but her ADD and possible BPD is destroying her life.... So if that is the case then that is ridiculous i've spent the past 2 years understanding my issues and finally sorted them out, however they didn't affect my friendships, relationships, job, academics, family relations and pretty much every aspect of my life. Infact i am grateful i am not in that position cause i was ignorant about having anxiety for a while but i bit the bone, accepted it and took advantage of the help i was offered.
Yeah friendships are suppose to be equal but i feel her untreated ADD makes it impossible to do that as she finds it challenging everyday just to do things people like myself take for granted
Claire
