(((((((ww)))))))))
You have an excellent point. Your name says it all...wise...I am not feeling the guilt so much anymore. You're right it is HER problem and none of us deserved this. It's just something we had to endure because of someone else's (who happened to be our mother) issues.
I want to give you an extra (((Hug))) because you've helped us all so much, just asking the questions and giving support.
Take care wise one

Kimberly.