Angela:

I really never had this problem. With my mom, it was abandonment and emotional/physical neglect, not environmental. She is an absolute neatfreak.

In my dad's home (they divorced when I was young) he and my stepmother shared duties in the house..Keeping it cleaned, etc. except they did that by shouldering it off on the 4 children they had. (my brother and I and her two kids) So , needless to say it wasn't a very clean upbringing. We had nice houses but roaches, and other pests. Disgusting.

I think in that case they're both to blame. No more she than he.

Take Care.
Kimberly