Thanks for responding.

Im not trying to protect myself im trying to protect myself from being hurt its her im trying to protect. If she wanted to leave she would of already of left me to deal with this by myself last year, and you're right Sweet about it getting wrose not talking about it.
Thanks for the idea of the contract black. it seems to be a good idea and i think i might try it.
Im going to talk to her more about it tonight because we got in a big fight about it last night and we both just hung up.
Max