No one should ever assume that a restraining order is any guarantee of protection. Woman have been killed relying on restraining orders. Besides, we have to bear some responsibilities for the entanglements we get ourselves into. Cops got other things to do besides babysit every love affair gone awry. Recourse to them is a civil right. But first a responsible citizen should make a reasonable and diligent effort to stop feeding into the craziness, which I think means that you stop giving an unwanted caller any attention, in just the same way that the phone company advises us to handle obscene or nuisance calls.