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Old Jul 23, 2015, 12:39 AM
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It’s really good you managed to get a T so soon & yes, please search for a longer-term prospect when/if things end with this one. Could T advise you? Maybe referral of some potentially good Ts?

I get the negative thoughts and that is what he seems to be doing i.e. have the rational 'you' question the validity of these (irrational) thoughts/beliefs.

I will gently challenge these assumptions as well (done gently, *not* to judge etc.): e.g. you say you had to withdraw from Uni but you say you are feeling better. So there is hope. Which means, you could try again at a later date. It is hard to focus on Uni when one is going through hell... So, try not to be too hard on yourself. Likewise, you saying you “will always fail” is not really validated to date. You acknowledge that you did succeed at some stuff. So, again, the future is undecided and you are not doomed to fail. Things *can* get better. But definitely, look for a T to work longer-term.