I agree that Clair2015's sentiments are reasonably noble, if not somewhat misguided due to the fact she really has to sit back and wait for her friend to potentially come to her own realizations.

However Clair you level of preoccupation with the topic of your friend and her problems does seem somewhat over the top, and people here notice and wonder why. I mean it wouldn't shock me if you told me that 24/7 you do nothing else but think about her, I am not saying that is the case, but I think focusing all your emotions on her outcome is meeting some need that you have. Something strong is pushing or drawing you to her.

I think you need to examine why, and moderate your level of interest in the situation, because your level of interest in this person may potentially cause you to lose the person from your life, along with your ability to help her, if she does not welcome your level of attention.

I am certainly not judging you, and only know what I have read. You sound like a very admirable person with good values, but I am not sure you truly have resolved all your issues yet, this is only my opinion on an internet forum- do not take it too personally.

Best wishes.