Gerber,

I don't know if I am interpreting this right - but here is what I think -

Alot of times during crisis problem solving and getting stable is what needs to be done first. I know that my T did that a long time for me. Now that things are stable we are moving into the emotional part. From what you write I see him trying to make that connection and maybe once things are stable you can move into the underlying problems. I remember my T telling me that I wasn't well enough to to do that when I was in crisis. It's not that they don't care - they care so much and they don't want to push you over the edge. Looking back it would have sent me over the edge. When I look back now - I see that he was helping straighten things out and setting healthy coping mechanisms in place because that is what I needed before getting to the hard work. I think that now matter what style a T prefers - they all change things and pull from different areas as to what the client needs. I have no idea what my T uses with me and I really can't figure it out. I also think a responsible T would tell you if they aren't able to help you - I think they look at the big picture and decide what you are going to need and if it is out of their skill set they would tell you right away. You could ask the T point blank - this is what I want and this is what I see you giving me - is there a reason - Take care.