Ok, so it's been a couple of weeks since I last posted and my dad has been home since early last week �� The latest with my mother is that I finally was able to talk to her on the phone today. I said I was sorry if I made her feel like I didn't want a relationship with her, or if I had hurt her feelings in any way but I wanted to move forward. I told her from the bottom of my heart I was truly sorry and guess what? It turned into bringing up my mistakes from the past. Past dating back 20➕ years! I was floored. She asked where she went wrong. Because when I was 16 or 17 and she asked me to be home at 11 and I decided to stay out later with my friends i must have done it because I hated her. Or when I had my tonsils removed at age 20 and her and my dad came over with jello she didn't know my roommate was a guy so I must have done that to spite her. I couldn't believe my ears what she was bringing up yet I kept my mouth shut. She said remember you told me you hated me? I said 'mom, I was 13 or so. I was a young, dumb kid. I didn't mean that clearly '. I finally said 'listen, i just want to have a relationship with you, from the bottom of my heart I'm sorry if I've hurt you'. She said 'i forgive you but I don't think there is a relationship to have. I wish you the best but that's it. I think I hear someone at the door.' And then hung up on me. Nothing has stung as bad as this. My dad was pretty upset when I told him. He said to give it some time but because of his health I don't want to put him in the middle of this. I have plans to fly out to visit them with my kids in November so I asked him about this. He said nothing has changed, he wants us to come out still and he'd handle her. Whatever that means. I don't know what to do from here. It's sickening to think my mother wants nothing to do with me and won't even give me a chance. This is a woman who goes to church weekly, thinks she's a good catholic yet acts like this. I do know she's been under a tremendous amount of stress with one of her sisters who is terminally ill and doesn't live near her. So between my dad's health and her sister's it is a lot... But still... Thoughts?