Maybe you guys can come up with a time where you can sit down and talk. A time when you're not trying to go to bed. Maybe on a weekend day, you can ask for some time just to talk. Make it a time where you both agree to listen to one another and then discuss. Sometimes when the conversations come up unexpectadly, thats when they're hardest.

I had all my stuff written down when I needed to talk to bf. Before he came over, I looked over it again. We both knew the talk was gonna happen so we were both prepared. Maybe that would work?