I have difficulty with this too. I'm slowly beginning to understand that sessions are about me, the whole process is about me, because I'd forgotten that. I try to make it about both of us, and in a way it is, but it's about me learning about my feelings and thoughts, not about my ts feelings or thoughts. Unfortunately, I haven't figured out yet how to open up, without caring about her so much.

It's one thing to be respectful, which I think is important in all relationships (client and t included), and another to care so much about someone it prevents you from getting your needs met.