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Originally Posted by thepterodactyl
I appreciate your "prying" ! (like I mentioned, I really have no one to talk to about this so it's relieving). I think it's a combination of not understanding what bipolar is and not wanting to understand. He's said it himself: he's a very practical person who goes into "fix" mode whenever there's a problem. But I've pointed out to him many times that this attitude is often not very helpful in the midst of of emotional turmoil, because there is no "answer." I bought a book awhile ago about bipolar/relationships and asked why he didn't bother reading it - he said he didn't like reading/thinking about me as a diseased person, as someone with an illness. I just don't relate to this attitude at all. I always want to know more and more and more about anything that effects me or those I care about.
I'm worried I've "married my mother" who has similar emotional blockages...
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I hadn't read this before I posted my long response. I will add this: If you communicate clearly to tell him what you need and he refuses to make an effort to help you, then he is not doing his part.
Also, his refusal to accept you for who you are and to accept you as someone who is bipolar is HIS issue and says more about him than it does about you. He needs to look at why he isn't comfortable with acknowledging you and honouring you as a person with bipolar, and honouring your illness as well.
In short, I believe he has some prejudices about mental illness and needs to make an effort to understand and accept it.
Maybe I'm way off base, but that's how that comes across to me.