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Originally Posted by Secretum
She told me that Narcissists actually feel really insecure and hide that insecurity by "putting up a front" of extreme confidence and self-worship.
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I think this is very true, but it takes a while to actually find this within yourself. A strength of the narcissist is to shut these feelings away and see them as "primitive" and themselves being too great to be affected by something so petty.
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Originally Posted by Secretum
But no one ever talks about the suffering that the Narcissist goes through. It's as if people think that because Narcissists can't empathize with others, they do not deserve empathy themselves.
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Narcissists are not very likeable people, overall. I'd wager to say that most of the time if one was to reveal to a friend "I have confidence issues" they would laugh it off as a joke and think you aren't being serious.
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Originally Posted by Secretum
I guess my question is....do you wish that people were more willing to try to empathize with you? To see who you really are, a complex, emotive human being who is the way that they are due to circumstances completely out of their control?
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The paradox the narcissist lives in is their wish to be adored and recognised by peers and strangers, and also their intense desire to be left alone.