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Originally Posted by wheredidthepartygo
i figure if a kink/fetish makes you feel bad or gross than i personally think of it less as a kink and more of just a symptom of the abuse. i figure kinks and fetishes should be fun or at least good in all senses. not just physically or sexually feel good but mentally.
and none of mine do so  |
Not necessarily, a lot of theories suggest that all of our sexual desires are formed by early experience. Thus, it is a symptom in that any sexual desire is a symptom... And it still makes us feel gross for many, many, complex reasons. Some people also just struggle with liking it... Guilt and shame are the symptoms, but they would happen regardless of kink or no kink, in my opinion. The fetish is not the symptom--the shame is.