Hi.....

I think that it must have been a whole mixture of feelings if this is the first time that you have had sex after the rape... I can really identify with some of the feelings as my first time after rape was at 19... it had a pretty profound impact on me over all... so my advice is to go very slow in this "causual sex" thing.. allow yourself time to process some feelings that you may not even realize you are having...really, it can sneak up on you..

I am deeply, deeply concerned about a man that would attempt to have sex without a condom in a non-committed relationship. And you were sooooo right to not allow this to happen. Such fellows in my opinion are "jerks", or they would not do this...Men like this, well they do not deserve a second chance.... that was a very irresponsible thing that he did...

I say this out of caring for you...