You are who you are, and that part is what's true. As much as you'd like your mom's and community support, it is what it is for now. Since, you aren't independent of your family, being respectful of them isn't hiding, per se, just accepting them for themselves. Cultures that exorcise do expect a certain level of uniformity, je n'ai se quoi. I don't know, all the answers or how to navigate your predicament.
You're not alone. At least reaching out for support, will help you sort through this, and reach your own resolution.