before I could leave ip my entire family, wife and kids, had to come to a meeting with myself and my ip pdoc, and agree to take care of me, ... all was explained to them, ... nothing was left out .... "they were educated" right then and there, it got us off on a good footing, ... maybe some gentle education on how you feel and how you don't want this to be a stumbling block in your marriage, remember as you said popular media stereotypes is all she knows ...