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Originally Posted by Starks518
I would like to believe it is possible but I have a slew of doubts especially after our 5 year stint together. I was shocked to even recieve an email out of the blue 5 years later but assumed enough time had passed and maybe I had been too harsh on her and I had undiagnosed bipolar so maybe I was part of the problem as well. Me having bipolar and having major depressive episodes along with low self-esteem and co-dependency (wow, I'm just a ball of fun) makes me also question if it will always be destined for disaster. Especially since, now, I am being given the silent treatment (a game I know all too well where I then beg for forgiveness of answers even if I've done nothing wrong). Unfortunately this is now reactivating a major depressive state for me.
I'm not trying to post a "woe is me" message but rather get opinions from others who have more knowledge of the disorder and how it plays out in relationships.
Thank you
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I have been with my wife for 20 years. Never have I cheated but yes our relationship has had its moments of chaos (as most do). I also know that because of my NPD which has caused many of our issues in the past. That being said our relationship is so much stronger now and continues to do so as we go along. There isn't another person in this world who gets me the way she does. Her ways have kept me in a path that has helped me so many times over. Especially now in these last few years with being "self aware" I have been able to take time out to listen to her thoughts and insights which really help in the cause of opening my eyes a bit more. Long story short relationships are possible as I am proof. I think though it takes a certain type of person to be what we need as a partner for "these" relationships to work. I don't want to come of too harsh (not meaning to) but with the way you describe yourself I don't believe "you" can have a lasting relationship with a person with NPD. You sound too much like prey to people like us rather than someone who could keep one at bay for long periods of time. My thoughts here only, not trying to write your ending for you.