Thanks for your reply. I understand what you're trying to say. I'm stuck in this "pit" with no where to go; so I thought I would try to change my families perspective and get them to change, but it's pointless at this point. I was surprised my friend was so calm after what happened. Normally it would have been WW3 between us. We have broken our friendship and rekindled it at least twenty times since I've known him. I think he has other agenda's to keep me around, but it was still nice to hear someone act like they understood.