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Most men are 'fixers', and get inpatient when they can't. They also put things off...sometimes for years...because they're thinking down the road they can probably 'fix' whatever it is, never understanding there is a point of no return.
I think you may want hubby to 'assume' things about what you need...but he might have a fear that if he guesses wrong, he'll be catching hell from both sides. You have to learn not only to articulate what you need, you'll have to figure out the key to communicate with 'him'. That feat could take counseling, but could be a win-win. You could learn a communication mechanism, and the relationship could benefit...because by now years down the road there are probably some ruffled feathers that could use some re-arranging.
My best friend is a very kind and sweet soul. If I needed something he would be on my doorstep in 5 minutes. But he doesn't 'get' his wife's terrible crippling migraines after 34yrs, and he doesn't 'get' my bipolar either, still thinking if I would just spend a day at the lake, everything would be ok for me. He and I coexist just fine...but we're not married to each other.
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