I agree with others who have said that because you're an adult and this happened when you were a minor, it's totally up to you to decide when or if you ever report your abuser. It's an entirely different issue if you were discussing with your therapist a situation in which you were in contact with this individual and knew that he/she was in direct contact with minor children--leaving open the possibility that the children were in danger of being abused, and even then it's your decision.

I have a real problem with your therapist laying a guilt trip on you. In my opinion, that's not her job. Yes, it's fine for her to talk about whether or not you know if the individual is in a position of power over minor children, but it's not okay for her to ask, "Do you not feel guilty or responsible for these children?" I'm guessing that is an issue you struggle with internally without her making it worse, and it's an issue you should be allowed to explore without her guilting you. I know that I talked a lot with my previous therapist about how I felt that I failed my best friend by being able to "get out", leaving her behind and never looking back or talking about it until years later.

I think the other issue that bothers me about your situation is that I truly believe that it's YOUR therapy and you need the space, support and empathy to explore this issue without your therapist imposing her needs on you. You might, at some point, decide to report this individual, but it's your decision. I know that many therapist will very openly let their client know that they must report a situation of abuse if it involves a minor or a situation in which they know that children are at risk--in other words, they let their client know that if a specific name is mentioned along with specific current information that indicates children are at risk, he/she will have to report. This lets the client know that it is in their hands whether or not they speak the person's name in the therapy session.

I am all for protecting children, but I believe that in many ways, a therapist's job is similar to a lawyer's job in protecting the confidentiality of their client. It's fine for a therapist to explore the issue of reporting the abuse, but by allowing the client to make the decision, he/she is giving an abuse survivor the ultimate power of possible retribution. I always try to believe that I would be strong enough to protect other children from a sexual predator, but I also know that the issue is complicated. In my job, I was a mandated reporter and believe me when I say, I saw many many predators walk away with nothing being done after I filed a report; this allowed the abuser to continue wreaking havoc on children's lives. It didn't stop me from filing a report when I suspected abuse, but it was very discouraging. Reporting doesn't work in the majority of cases from what I've experienced, but that doesn't mean it shouldn't be done; it just means that it isn't the magic bullet to stop abuse that many of us are lead to believe!