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This guy is doing you a favor, really. He's running a huge red flag up the pole with fireworks and a siren in the background, showing what life will be like with him. Now that the 'new' has worn off and his clothes are hanging in your closet, he can put his 'game' back into the box and carry on with his real self...a self you don't really care for. 'Joking' that hurts you like this does is NOT joking. I'm thinking its a mechanism to sink your self-worth and make it easier for him to start a pattern of control. Relationships are like buildings, and when you start off a new one on a really shaky foundation, failure and endless pain are in sight.
6 months into this relationship and its already building resentments. Try to imagine how dysfunctional it will be after a couple of years. When you told him you didn't like something, instead of finding a way of changing his behavior...he threw something back at you to deflect responsibility for the discomfort he caused you. Life as bipolar is hard enough, and if he resists adjusting himself willingly for something simple, you can guess he'll run like the wind if it gets hard and you become unstable...and need him the most.
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