I also in my 30's go through the same thing over and over again too..I have a very understanding husband too but that dosen't take away the sick feelings I have or the painful memories that flash through my head...Allot of it has just resurfaced for me though and therapy has opened up allot of stuff that I have denied myself to ever deal with... I think we have to go through therapy and dealing with it and hopefully at the end of that road is some recovery if not like some suggested ways around the problems that were created for us as VICTIMS of this ABUSE...Best to all, Nerak