Greetings everyone. If you're at all familiar with my old posts that's great, if not that's okay, I'll try to be brief.

I am still trying to work out a better balance to my home life with my husband so that I don't feel so overwhelmed and under stress all the time. I'm working full time, he does not have a real "job", his job is to build us a boat so we can travel the world and find a new place to live and raise our kids (we're not big fans of America right now.) Hubby and I have been having issues with sex stuff lately - namely he wants more, I want less.

So. We were having a good long talk the other day about our sex lives, and our lives in general. I tried to express how the condition of the house (dirty/messy) makes me all stressed out, and how there are simply not enough hours in the day to get everything (including sex) done. I've been asking for him to pitch in and do more around the house, and he has... to a point. He does dishes on a more regular basis now, and he has been cooking more meals for us. But pretty much all the cleaning and upkeep still falls to me.

His reply to my concerns about the house was, "Well, we have to make hay while the sun shines as they say. We're very busy in the Summer what with gardening, boat building, etc. Cleaning the house is a low priority considering all the other things that we need to do. Even if a friend or someone was coming over, they'd give us a few hours notice and that's all we'd really need to make the place nice so you aren't embarrassed. I'm doing a lot more around the house now anyway, so just don't let it bother you."

Am I over reacting to be angry with this, or to think that he completely invalidated my feelings with this statement? Like saying I 'just shouldn't let it bother me' is completely infuriating. I can't choose how I feel, or just ignore it either. I can't feel comfortable or happy in my home if it's constantly filthy and disorganized. How am I supposed to relax, or feel sexy if all I can see is dirt on the floors, a sink full of dirty dishes, a filthy bathroom that needs to be scrubbed from top to bottom, a kitchen table so cluttered that there is no room for food prep anymore, and dirty laundry thrown all over the house?

So now I'm wondering what I can do. I don't know how to broach this subject with him again. I want to express how I feel, without being made to feel that my feelings are invalid. Thanks for any help.