I just want to let you know that as a t in training, I am a mandated reporter (or will be). If you were a minor your T would have to report your abuser, but as an adult there is no such obligation. I am actually appalled at your T for being so judhemental and actually trying to make you feel guilty or responsible for anything this other person does. You were a victim and are in therapy to process what happened to you. She has no place telling you what you should and should not do. Personally, I think she acting like a bully and if anyone is unethical it, is her. If she doesn't change her attitude I might think I might look for a new T.