I relate so much!!!

When I was thinner, male attentiveness was based on sexuality, and not me as a person.

As I got heavier, sure, the attention thinned out but then I knew who was interested in ME and not just my appearance. Some of that even goes towards female friends.

So confusing. I don't want to be overweight but being thin has its downside too.

Nobody messes with me at my height/weight….I did not feel that safety as a younger slimmer woman.