Your feelings are ALWAYS valid. They are yours. Nobody else has a right to tell you how you feel or why you should feel a certain way.

That said - as is true for pretty much all self harmers (myself included) - we SH because it is a coping method to deal with emotional pain in a way that makes sense in our head.....

I will leave it to the professionals to argue if our logic is flawed or not. I just know that it is effective. Maybe not ideal, but it works for me.

Best wishes for you.