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Originally Posted by Hooligan
Oh I totally agree - some of my family members are very toxic!
Sounds to me like he's said a hell of a lot of uncalled for comments that would be damn hard for me to listen to if I were in your shoes.
I'm sorry that you had to hear and put up with that nonsense  |
Yeah, I don't take what he says well at all (as you can tell). I mostly bottled it up (though did of course get angry sometimes). This was the first time I was spitting mad. I got a sore throat and threw some things (not good, however, it got the anger out and I cannot feel bad about it because guilt is no good for me).
Thanks for the support.
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Originally Posted by wiretwister
I moved four hours away from family, I have had no dealings with my brother for several years, .... need I say more ... I understand ...
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I guess sometimes it is better that way. It is something I finally admitted.
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Originally Posted by BeyondtheRainbow
I had to end my relationship with my father (at the same time my siblings either came to the same conclusion or the court did for them). But my sister and I had major issues (not as bad as what you are describing though) for years until her wedding when I was the most miserable bridesmaid ever and I had little to do with her for years until her husband told her she was mean to me and should be nicer. I only know that b/c my mom told me so I can't thank him but we've finally established a pretty good relationship in the last several years since she had kids. Not best friends but we get along and I'm very much part of my nieces' lives. I truly never thought it could get better and still am a little shocked that it did but I am so glad.
I hope that someday your brother also sees the error of his ways.
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I do think some arguments/teasing is normal, but when it turns mean and/or close-minded it is certainly not okay. I could understand the shock that it got better. My brother and I only very briefly were better (maybe a couple months a few years ago) but it crashed again. So I'd be surprised if things mended too.
He's never been in a diverse area. He's always lived at home. So his exposure to minorities is lacking tremendously. Him going away to a diverse college could help to change that. Then and only then we may get along. That would be nice just as I am sure it is for you and your sister.
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