Hi IzzyMarie,

I think the most important thing is that you enjoy living as a woman. Other than that, I don't think you should worry about being truly transgender or just lacking in identity.

However, since you asked for our experiences I will tell you mine. As a teenager, soon after the BPD symptoms started, I constantly thought I would have preferred to be a man. I went so far as to tell my friends to call me with a male name, which I think they took as a joke or something. It wasn't. I really wanted to be a male. But for me I believe it definitely was lack of identity, plus the beginning of a big struggle with my femininity due to sexual abuse in my teens.