BTW, there's a great book titled, "The Way Of All Women" by M. Esther Harding, that explains so clearly all this about why it can be so hard to get out on your own. It helps to understand the strong pull that holds you down, and how it's especially hard when parents confuse the issue of individuation. I had some of those problems really deep, and that book helped me understand. You can see it on Amazon or just google it, if you wish.