I am sorry I upset you, I just saw red flags , maybe I shouldn't have said anything.

-----Self-disclosure of feelings in the here-and-now is an important part of psychoanalytic psychotherapy. When the therapists reaches the point in which he/she feels comfortable to do so, therapy has, in fact, reached a "beginning." ------

I think when it is the CLIENT who does this, is the beginning of good work. Therapy is suppose to be about what the client is feeling, the client does the work, what the T comfort level is shouldn't matter all that much, because therapy should be focused on the client's feelings, not the T's.

And a T dealing with erotic transference from his client, needs to be extra careful in dealing with them, especially if it has been confirmed. T's can take advantage of that, they are human, and it has happened before, not saying that it will happen to you. I have seen this happen to someone before, and some of the loosening of boundries, like the ones you have talked about was the precurser of the "slippery slope".