My girlfriend & I met online. We fell in love hard & fast. She lives in Texas, I live in Oregon. We got very close very fast, & I was afraid to share some things about my past until the time was right. I went to Texas twice in as many months. The first visit was amazing. The second visit, she found out about my past. She is very successful in her professional life,* & fiercely independent. She was physically abused by her mother when she was young, & her father wasn't around. She always shuts down completely, & won't respond to texts, calls, or emails. She does this with everyone she has problems with. She cuts them off completely. I try to engage her repeatedly, & in every way I can think of. She won't say anything. The only thing she will say is to leave her alone & that I'm smothering her, which I admit, I kind of am. I just want to get through to her. I just want to talk. I think she suffers from dismissive avoidant attachment. How do I do this? I love her & her daughter very much.
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