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Originally Posted by disparaissant
I'm sorry you are in so much pain. Growing up in this age is so hard. Comparing ourselves to others will certainly at some point or another make us feel bad about ourselves. Social media seems like a bit of a contest to me at times. I've deactivated facebook because I really don't want to see other people's highlights of their lives. But that is something to remember, people will show you the "good" stuff, vacations, highlights of their life, but you don't see the ugly side.
Anyhow, I know, some things you just can't change. But some things you can change. See if there is something that interests you that you could develop as an interest, for your own enjoyment and for no other reason. We need to be happy with ourselves before we try to find anyone else anyways. No relationship will work unless you can be ok being alone with yourself.
I feel like suggesting to most people with problems, to listen to Eckhart Tolle on youtube. There are many good videos, of course, just my opinion.
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One of my main problems is that I just hate the way I look. I feel objectified and im a male. It seems to be getting more common (fifty shades of grey, magic mike, etc.) I probably have worse body image issues than females. Women only seem to want the 6'4" perfect face, perfect abs, tan clear skin, male. All these people over the internet say that that's an ideal male, and that they want a male with a large penis, too. Women have fantasies about being taken advantage of and having rough sex, yet they contradict themselves and say they want a "confident" man, whatever that means, and because I don't measure up to that standard, I feel sick, ugly, disgusting, and emotional pain inside. And the whole thing today with feminism angers me. So women can say they want a handsome tall men with a large penis, yet men are called materialistic when they want a physically attractive women? And when women say they have fantasies of getting sexually dominated by these types of men, they aren't being materialistic or superficial? Everyone seems like a hypocrite these days. That's like me saying I don't want a woman because her breasts aren't large enough. It's just a huge contradiction because women don't tell men what they really want. Why do you think 95% of women read fifty shades of grey?