Both men and women are objectified. But not all men and women objectify. Not all women want what you seem to be comparing yourself to, "magic mike, fifty shades".. perfection, or even close to perfection. (which is only an idea in one's mind)

And even if you get those things you're feeling are lacking, as someone up there said, happiness is an inside job. Relationships can ruin you. I've lived it. You can't get your happiness from the outside, or someone else. You say you hate the way you look. I felt that way too. Now I wish I would have just appreciated being healthy and young, and taken care of my physical body as well as everything else. Having great looks is nothing really. Making the most of everyday, taking time to care for others, thinking of someone else that you can help, those are the things, at the end of life, that matter. And I believe someday, some woman will love you for the person you are, not for the shell on the outside. Especially if you learn to value yourself not for what you look like, but for what you can give with love. (I'd have saved myself some agony if I had learned this long ago)
I know you are hurting. I felt that once too. I wish we knew what we know when we are older, when we are younger.
I hesitate to post this. I don't ever want to make anyone feel worse. I hope I haven't. I just was trying to help.