Ex t has asked if it needed medical attention. It's not in a spot I would show, so that's never a question. She's asked how often, and if it has become a concern, but only if I brought it up. I was expected to try other skills and call either her, the office crisis line, or the crisis chats. It was not something she would bring up without my initiation. I was expected to disclose if it became more concerning, but we did not focus on it. It helped me take back a sense of control around it, and I was better at self-regulating. I was harder on myself about the self harm than t evert was.

Other t's have asked me at every session, or when I was more stressed. Ex t started out by asking at every session until we developed more trust. I tend to disclose about it if it starts to worry me, so (unless I'm extremely unstable), it's not often addressed.