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Old Jul 28, 2015, 09:42 PM
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Depression has a very very sneaky trick jakers. You know this stuff...

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Originally Posted by jakers59 View Post
...I just don't see the point, I've gone too far to change, my future seems pretty much gone and I'm only 19 years old. My depression, severe anxiety, and self hatred are just ruining me. I have nobody, absolutely nobody, and it seems that it's going to stay that way. I don't ever see myself ever being in a relationship, a girl being physically attracted to me, having sex, having kids, or just being loved and accepted by someone that I like. And it stings so bad on the inside, it hurts really bad....
I'll bet it repeats in your head over and over again. I'll bet you have thoughts like this dozens of times a day or more. They are very captivating to you because of their importance to you and because of their emotional content. The sneaky trick of depression is that all this is hiding what I think is your underlying true problem. I think it doesn't even matter whether the stuff you are saying above is true or not. You may be a very perceptive guy with a lot of insight into this. That actually makes it worse because you're convincing correctness in your thinking makes it even more of a trap.

This is the trick: The core problem with depression is not your particular thoughts or feelings, the problem is HOW thoughts and feelings come into your mind in general. I have been doing this all my life and only very recently figured it out. I find it almost impossible to realize what's actually going on when you are in it.

Anyway, you might find these notes helpful in explaining what I'm talking about:

http://egg.bu.edu/~youssef/SNAP_CLUB...0164151576.pdf

- vital