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Originally Posted by jakers59
One of my main problems is that I just hate the way I look. I feel objectified and im a male. It seems to be getting more common (fifty shades of grey, magic mike, etc.) I probably have worse body image issues than females. Women only seem to want the 6'4" perfect face, perfect abs, tan clear skin, male. All these people over the internet say that that's an ideal male, and that they want a male with a large penis, too. Women have fantasies about being taken advantage of and having rough sex, yet they contradict themselves and say they want a "confident" man, whatever that means, and because I don't measure up to that standard, I feel sick, ugly, disgusting, and emotional pain inside. And the whole thing today with feminism angers me. So women can say they want a handsome tall men with a large penis, yet men are called materialistic when they want a physically attractive women? And when women say they have fantasies of getting sexually dominated by these types of men, they aren't being materialistic or superficial? Everyone seems like a hypocrite these days. That's like me saying I don't want a woman because her breasts aren't large enough. It's just a huge contradiction because women don't tell men what they really want. Why do you think 95% of women read fifty shades of grey?
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First of all, I want to tell you that I didn't have my first relationship until I was 22. I know several other people who didn't start dating until after college. You are not so behind the curve, so don't worry.
I also wanted to correct some of your assumptions about women because I think it might help you have a better rapport with females. What you described as the "ideal male" is just that, an ideal. The ideal woman is apparently over 6 feet tall with flat abs, big boobs, wide-set eyes, long eyelashes, high cheekbones and pouty lips. That's a Victoria's Secret model, that's not reality. I would drool over a guy who looked like the ideal male but in reality the men I fell in love with look nothing like that, and it didn't matter. Relationships are not built on appearance alone and attraction is about more than physical features.
I don't know where you are getting the penis size thing from. If I went on a date with someone I would have no way of knowing what was in his pants. I've never known any woman who had that as a criteria or left their partner for being too small. And I don't think most women have fantasies of rough sex/domination. That might be a small part of the population and you are generalizing it to everyone. Keep in mind that as many as 1 in 3 of us have been sexually abused at some point and speaking for myself, domination would totally freak me out.
I hope you don't mind my addressing these things, it's just that you seem really angry with women and I don't think you should blame the whole sex because you don't approve of some individuals.
I hope you can make peace with yourself soon. I'm sure your whole world is going to open up one day when you least expect it.