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Old Jul 14, 2007, 05:46 PM
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It sounds to me like maybe you are trying to reconnect, not say goodbye. What do you think?

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I think your posts are always very insightful, sister, and I think your suggestion has some truth in it.

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Could you be flitting for any other reason?... Well, it sounds to me like your therapy is ready to take a deeper turn now that the divorce discussions are moving away.

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I do think my med is causing some of the flitting, but maybe not all. It really acts as a stimulant and can make me kind of "jangly" at times, unable to sit still, rather impatient, etc. Unfortunately, that happened in therapy last time. But I do feel a little at sea in therapy, I think, because in my life right now I am so fixated on the divorce. It is a huge deal for me, and I need support from T on this right now and in the future. But through couples therapy, I have resolved some of the high-stress problems with my husband, which is paving the way for an amicable divorce, so I am currently feeling pretty good about this, although I'm aware rough times may be on the horizon as we get into the legal nitty gritty. On the one hand, I want to "get on with therapy" with T and not focus on the divorce, because I have other important issues I would like to work on. But on the other hand, I feel unable to do that right now, because the divorce is so all-consuming. It takes all my energy. So maybe in therapy, I flit about, wanting to deal with non-divorce stuff, but being unable to. Like a butterfly unable to alight for more than a few seconds on any one perch. It is just not the right time for that. I know that. T knows that. He has alluded to our future in therapy and what we might work on, but that time is not now. As a result, I am not seeing him every week right now. It is a bit frustrating for me to go there and not be able to dive into non-divorce stuff. So for now, I am seeing him just every other week or less, depending on whether the session is individual or couples.
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