I really never did until I wrote that myself.... but it seems to make a lot of sense. My therapist may not agree (she says I NEED people, I say I don't), but my thought is, if you ARE more independent, able to care for yourself, not have to rely on too many others, then you start feeling more secure. Now I'm not a therapist, and most therapists probably wouldn't agree with this....but I'm not at all insecure when I'm alone. It's only around others. So.... it makes sense to me.