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Originally Posted by PinkFlamingo99
Thanks for sharing you're feeling better. I'm in so much pain from a similar situation of over 5 years now and it's good to see you can heal. I'm so glad, and I think you're strong.
I'm also struggling with being in therapy with someone else right now. She's awesome but I keep wanting to run because I'm so afraid of being abandoned at the height of my pain and my fear abotu what's going to happen to me.
Good luck and let us know how it goes.
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PinkFlamingo I remember how distraught you were and I remember reading your story
I'm so sorry you are still in a lot of pain.
It IS great that you are with a therapist you know is awesome
I'm really, really hoping you start to feel better.
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Originally Posted by precaryous
Simply put- My experience was spent a couple of years seeing ExploitativePsychiatrist (but didn't understand he was exploiting me at the time). Then I spent several years with PrevT who was a great T. We spent a lot of time processing what ExploitativePsychiatrist did to me. Then PrevT changed jobs and eventually I left California.
I refused to look for a new therapist for fifteen years after my move.
Now I have been in therapy with CurrentT for about one and a half years. We are finally getting to the issues that brought me to therapy in the first place.
I have entered therapy tentatively- a lot of things trigger me. I am paying a lot of attention to things like boundaries, therapy style, genuineness, whether CurrentT has my best interest at heart..the list goes on.
I feel whether you enter therapy again depends on your needs...what remains to be examined...whether you need a break..many things. It won't be easy. Trust your instincts. Don't be afraid to question. You drive therapy.
Happy to see you posting again!
Pre
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I'm glad you are back in to wrestle the stuff you originally wanted to. I find it kind of mad, that we have these brushes with somebody who scars us and then we have to un-do all their crap.
I know we drive our own therapy but sometimes it seems to run away with itself..
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Originally Posted by WePow
You know, sometimes you have to remember that you are the boss in the therapy relationship. It is not the other way around. Just like with any doctor, they have a job to do - help you heal. If they stink at their job, fire them and move on... You deserve to have the healthcare you need. Be honest with this new T and see how it goes. Remember, no two Ts are the same - just like any other doctor. I hope you find one that can help you heal!
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Yeah I know - but emotionally abusive relationships are very difficult to extricate oneself from.
Like when there's a person in a domestic violence situation, and people are perplexed about why they keep going back after another black eye, another split lit...
Abusers aren't monsters all of the time. They are very charming people when it suits them, who will seduce you and give you just enough crumbs of what you need to make you keep believing if you keep working hard and wait long enough - then the relationship will be great.
Therapy mirrors emotionally abusive relationships when it goes badly wrong.