Nicole, people who haven't had the same experiences or mental health problems get really scared around people who do. I have a 16-year-old son I gave up for adoption and whose adoptive mom just found me in March of this year. My grief over the whole thing frankly is what triggered my depression and much of my PTSD. No one would ever talk to me about it, not my family, not my friends, nobody except therapists, because they didn't know what to say or how to act.

I had a really bad time with Mother's Day this year and I posted to a group of "friends" (I thought) looking for someone to talk to. One of them wrote me back and said "There are lots of people grieving today but you don't deserve to be one of them" (direct quote). I immediately told her, and the others who chimed in to agree with her, to go F themselves, and tried to keep my feelings about it limited to people I know who care.

So I'm not sure what to tell you about your friend, but I think you did the right thing by asserting yourself. If she cuts you off, that's her loss and you're better off without her.

Candy