I recently signed up for a dating site and connected with a few people. For the first guy, we agreed to meet next week to go for a nice walk and get to know each other. I quickly changed my mind to meet for coffee instead and now I don't even know if I want to meet up. How do I cancel without being a jerk?

I think I just put more stress on myself. He seems nice and has been very polite and maybe he is genuinely interested. We've been getting to know each other but there's something about him that just doesn't sit right with me. My gut keeps telling me that something is going to happen.

There's another guy that's been cool. He and I have exchanged messages about travel and our hobbies, goals and future plans. He seems polite and easy to talk to and I like him so far. I initiated it and asked him to meet soon but he says he's currently serving overseas and won't be back for a month, but when he does return, we could go out. We added each other on FB and I've seen photos of him overseas and for the most part, he seems to be telling the truth.

Are these red flags? What should I do? Am I overthinking it and being insecure?

I feel really dumb and fooled. I am new to this online thing and it just seems ridiculous that I'm stressing over nothing. Please help!