fayerody is very correct in her statement that very often our support of folks is all in how we deliver it. Once you get to know folks here, you learn by reading what it is they are requiring for support and we can taylor how we say, what we say to that individual.

I'm a firm believer that positiveness begets positiveness. If I give someone support positively, then the message can be received in the same way and I hope that it helps the individual to grasp it and get something from it. Sometimes it's just a hug, other times, if the question is asked for advice, I'll give that too.

It takes time to learn about all the different personalities and individuals here at PC. There are so many folks here. Many times, all we are doing is reaching out for validation that we matter, that someone hears us and empathizes with us. Sometimes, thats all we need to know in order to feel better.

Part of healing is asking for what you need and want from people. It's not a matter of saying only what people want to hear, its a matter of hearing what they need and responding to it positively. I hope this helps you to understand what PC is about

Hugssss
J