I agree with Bill3. Stop smothering her. Respect her boundaries and give her the space she has asked for. Otherwise, she will want NOTHING to do with you.

I'm someone who also suffered some childhood abuse and, when I start dating someone, I need them to approach me SLOWLY and respect my boundaries. I do let people in once they have proven that they are "safe"-- but that takes time. The way I determine if someone is safe is, when I say "I need alone time right now" or "I need you to move slower" or "I need you to be patient"-- do they listen? Do they give me the space I have asked for? Or, like a lot of people, do they continue to blow up my phone, invade my space, tell me what they think I should do, or try to convince me that I'm wrong about what I need and, in their opinion, what I really need is more contact with them? If they keep pushing and trying to force their needs and their wants onto me instead of respecting my boundaries, then I know they are not safe. They don't actually respect or care about me at all. They are actually just trying to use me to meet their needs for attention/gratification/loneliness or whatever.