I do understand. I apologize if I offended anyone on disability. Especially op. Isn't my intent at all. I work with people with disabilities and have plenty of people with disabilities around me including being in love with one! So there is no judgement.

It is impossible to convey thoughts properly typing it!
I agree that perhaps waiting few dates is ok.

The thing is that some people might choose not to go on a first date if they know. And they should have that option.

There are plenty of things that might play against me.
And I know that it would be a total deal breaker for some men. So why not disclose?

It reminds me of this colleague I had. She failed to disclose she had 3 children, all still at home. Her excuse was "he never asked, so me not disclosing isn't lying ". Really? Is it something one needs to ask? So she apparently wanted to wait longer to tell him. Really? So they went on few dates.

He found out by accident bumping on to her with kids. He was livid as he didn't want to date women with kids at all! Let alone 3. She was pissed though and considered him to be a jerk. But I totally see it differently. He has rights to date or not date someone with kids! That right was taken away from him! It was waste of time for him. Some people are very busy or have other obligations like kids at home and going even on one date with someone they don't consider suitable is a waste of time and energy! I would be mad!

I do understand my opinion is not popular and no one has to agree. I might be totally wrong on the whole thing! It is just how I personally feel





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